the(little)pinktree

2011-05-15T18:52:00.001-07:00

3

And I'll still never forget

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2011-05-09T12:56:00.001-07:00

sometimes knowing that, that kind of magic both evil and good was inside me completely throws me off for weeks

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Found my rooster lantern

2011-05-09T12:53:00.001-07:00

maybe if you read this, because I am not going to do it twice.

But I seriously get it all now.

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2011-04-08T18:08:00.001-07:00

I love not drinking!!!!

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2011-03-22T14:03:00.001-07:00

8 point lunch

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!!!

2011-03-22T08:55:00.001-07:00

Sober day 80 !!!
And 8 days till a much needed and enjoyable airport beer! And secret mini vaycay!!!

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The story of their lives

2011-03-16T15:40:00.001-07:00

Little left over bits from the kodak machine

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2011-03-07T12:28:00.001-08:00

Forcing myself, and it feels good.

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Day 1

2011-03-05T15:11:00.001-08:00

Finally found the beach walkable to me!

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2011-02-27T18:16:00.001-08:00

Bittersweet ice-cream moments

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2011-02-25T17:55:00.001-08:00

A larchmont early spring evening

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Your everywhere

2011-02-23T11:26:00.001-08:00

Actually took a extra dose of b and d this morning, feeling better all ready!

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2011-02-20T13:20:00.001-08:00

Why you shouldn't buy booboo ink

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Triangle Tea Time

2011-02-20T11:58:00.001-08:00

Sunday afternoon white Ginger pear!

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2011-02-19T16:56:00.001-08:00

Uhhhhhhhhh I hate you booozdz

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Little sleepy baybays

2011-02-17T04:25:00.001-08:00

Getting so excited about windows open, and ceiling fans!
Sweet baby spring time.

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Lucky

2011-02-14T06:49:00.001-08:00

Love is the best feeling to ever feel.

Never not a reason to keep it going.

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Full belly

2011-02-07T11:38:00.001-08:00

today
Two bananas
One orange
One apple
Lots of water
2 cups of chili

One apple
One orange left

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Stirrrring up my future a bit

2011-02-04T15:19:00.001-08:00

I never thought I would say this,
BUT I LOVE BEING SOBER
I love everything about it!

Everything !!!!

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2011-02-02T06:46:00.001-08:00

Today's thought: "Nothing in life is to be feared. It is only to be understood." — Marie Curie

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Did I really!?

2011-01-28T14:02:00.001-08:00

Turned down some salad dressing today, go figure!

So far on my weight watcher journey I've lost 17 pounds

Besides the fact that I feel crazy yet sure, I'm doing pretty good for the first time in a while.

New glasses
Coming new week! Probably the best thing I'm waiting for right now!

2011-01-22T19:30:00.001-08:00

The Quality Woman: What She Wants, What She Will Not Accept, and How to Win Her Heart

By Chantell Smith
February 14, 2005

With Valentines Day upon us and all is red, pink, chocolate, cupid doilies, dozens of roses, and those cute little candy hearts with corny phrases on them, I must admit that the air has a hint of melancholy for someone like me who is unattached. There’s also something about this time that leads to an increase in the times I get popped the question—no, not the question, but rather, “So, do you have a boyfriend now?” Grrrr. Yet instead of settling into a pity party and bewailing my state of current singlehood, I’d like to make you aware of a group of ladies whom I consider myself to be a member. Who are we? I call us quality women. And last time I heard, we were in high demand.

quality woman (kwôl'i t* woom' *n) n. A confident, mature woman who knows what she wants, will not settle for less, and puts a high price on her devotion: e.g., one who does not ask, “How high?” of just any guy who comes around and yells, “Jump!”

I’m a fifth year college undergrad facing graduation this coming May (Woo-hoo! Thank ya Jesus!). I look back and think of the sacrifice, the hard work, and the setting and meeting of goals, all while striving to live my life for God. I feel that I have grown not only intellectually, but also personally and spiritually. I feel that I have a lot to offer, and I desire someone who can appreciate what I have to give. I am not alone, many quality women feel the same way. The quality woman does not necessarily have a college degree; however, she is a very independent and motivated individual. She has a personal and consistent relationship with God, and since she is a child of God, she knows that He wants what is best for her—and that includes her future mate.

All too frequently women are willing to give in to guys who, quite frankly, don’t appreciate the caliber of a true quality woman and of what she has to offer. Though these men may have everything else right—they’re godly, they’re gentlemen, they’re sincere, they’re stable—many times, they seem to take our devotion (if they have it, that is) for granted. In the words of a fellow quality woman, “What is it with guys that they think all they have to do is show up and they’ll get the girl? And what is it with girls who let them get away with it?” A true quality woman stands her ground and allows guys to get away with it no more.

A Disclaimer of Sorts
I progress with a disclaimer: This should not be taken as a feminist diatribe or anything of the sort. I’m just relating my feelings and those of many other women I’ve been in touch with who have expressed common sentiments with me. We actually tend to be “old school” when it comes to men’s and women’s roles in relationships. I am going to be honest and lay it all out; if you are a woman reading along and can identify, any mental or even outspoken “amen’s” will only add to the quality woman atmosphere, and if you are a man, hang tight if you would like to know what a true quality woman is all about.

What She Wants
A true quality woman wants a man who still considers himself the initiator in a relationship. I know that these days with the overtones of feminism in our society a man may be a little mixed up when it comes to courting a woman. A true quality woman expects a man to be the initiator, the pursuer, and the one who initiates the major milestones in the relationship. Ever had a friend who had to basically drag her boyfriend down the aisle? A quality woman does not want to feel that she has to do that (and she is too much of a lady to really do that!). A common response that a quality woman wants to give to a man who does not understand this fact is: “Come on, man, do something!”

A true quality woman also wants someone who is up for the challenge of working for her devotion. She desires a man who understands that being the object of her sentiments is, to further quote the aforementioned fellow quality woman, “a privilege, not a right.” She wants someone who is willing to take the time to show her that she is worth the effort.

A quality woman also wants someone who is not intimidated by her and is willing to sacrifice a bit of pride. At times, it seems that many otherwise well-intentioned men, who are indeed taken by one of these quality ladies, are too prideful to admit such or to take an existing relationship they may have with a quality woman to a more serious level because perhaps somehow they don’t feel, for lack of a better term, “good enough.” Perhaps for some men the prospect of a confident, goal-oriented, educated woman is a little daunting. Nevertheless, she wants someone who is not put off by her self-assuredness, but is rather emboldened by it. She wants one who is willing to lay aside his fear of rejection, and has enough self-confidence of his own, to approach and to pursue her.

What She Will Not Accept
First and foremost, a true quality woman will not put up with a fence sitter. She prefers honesty, openness, and clear intentions from the start, because she has neither time nor emotional energy to waste. She will not put up with wishy-washiness and doublespeak (see George Orwell’s 1984 for its origins). She doesn’t appreciate someone who conveys one sentiment with his words, and then allows all of his actions to belie them. She doesn’t like it when those who say one thing give her signals indicating something else (or more). She would rather have a consistent man of his word. For instance, I have a friend who is good friends with a guy who claims to be romantically interested in her. He seems to be waiting for her to make up her mind that she’d like to date him and is wondering what is taking her so long. But, as my friend exclaimed to me (with quite a bit of frustration), “He doesn’t ask me out! He doesn’t make me a priority! He hasn’t convinced me that it would be worth an investment of my time and emotions to have a relationship with him! At the rate he’s going, he’s going to be waiting a long time.”

On the same note, she will not accept a man who doesn’t know what he wants. She understands that there may be issues and decisions that a man has to make in his life. She understands that there may be some things that a man is unsure about. Sure, there are things in her life that perhaps she is unsure about as well. But she does not want to be dragged in and made a part of that instability and indecision. For example, another one of my friends was getting frustrated with a man who made what she considered outright overtures to gain her attention. Though it was established from the beginning that the relationship was “just friends,” at times his behavior indicated that maybe he was interested in a “more than friendship.” She told me that when it seemed that things began to cross the invisible fine line of friendship over to “more than friendship,” he would backtrack and withdraw from her and the cycle would begin again. There was a hazy, undefined nature to the friendship, and as time went on, it began to bother her more and more. “I wanted to know what he really wanted from me. I didn’t want a commitment, I just wanted to clearly know where this was all going, what his intentions were,” she explained. In the end, she had to do some withdrawing of her own to show him that she wasn’t accepting of his back-and-forth behavior. All of this could have been avoided had her friend been clear and consistent from the get-go.

Neither does a quality woman appreciate a man who wants the benefits of enjoying her company but doesn’t particularly want the stickiness of a commitment. Another friend poignantly explained the heart of this particular problem. She said, “He doesn’t understand that the time that we spend together, the things that I share with him when we talk, everything, no matter how small or insignificant it may be, is to me like giving little pieces of myself away. Why would I want to give away pieces of myself to someone who doesn’t even have intentions of committing to me?”

Lastly, she will not put up with being taken for granted. Remember, a true quality woman places a high price on her devotion, but if it is taken as a given, then she may have a tendency to be that much more “hard to get.”

Winning Her Heart
Men, this feat can only be accomplished by a sincere quality man. Love God. Know what you want. Approach her confidently. Be a gentleman. Be honest and open about your intentions. Let her know that you value her experiences and who she is as a person. Allow her to see that you are privileged to receive her affection, not entitled to it. After all, the Bible suggests that quality women are in high demand, yet a rare find: “Who can find a virtuous woman? for her price is above rubies” (Proverbs 31:10).

ninetyandnine.com

© 2005, Chantell Smith

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Taking are of myself

2011-01-14T06:12:00.001-08:00

So far 2011 has been banging.

Keep making the bed
Keep brewing morning coffee

Think long and about buying that damn printing press. And Mat-cutter.

Buy ink for printer, not the crappola deskjet.

Use the work out shoes.

Dream every night about little the little me I've neglected for thirty years.

Oh and yes! Denver, Vegas but rather denver and upstate newyork finally here I come!
And Georgia !

Still can't beileve it really

2010-12-01T06:14:00.000-08:00

Decemeber first reflexing

Seven more days of work then nothing but
Blue water
And a cell phone that won't work.

Looking forward to spending the day only
Holding on to a room key.

The ocean and I are going to have a serious talk.

The thankful box

2010-11-26T20:06:00.001-08:00

Thanksgiving was pretty amazing this year.

I've been pretty emotional lately.
Just getting older I guess...
My grandma and I have been getting closer. She is such a sweet dear sole.

I asked for a set of those fold up dinner trays for Christmas.
Pretty stoked about crafting them!

Other than that it's all sentiment

Oh and a con-grads to my dear cousin and his future wife Cassidy! So excited about being apart on their day!

this is it

2010-11-24T16:25:00.000-08:00

watching cox on demand yule log,
straight up
fireplace tv right now playing Christmas jams.

too bad im to cheap to make it real warm in here like a real fire.

and thats it folks,
im cooking my own thanksgiving next year. family can come here...

im ready to make my own bird.

my grandma is too old yall 81 and still at it. best give her a break.

but really about to make one of those im thankful jars right now so we will have something to
talk about at dinner.

happy thanksgiving yall! (hi truly)!

ps, i wore my class ring today.

!!!

2010-11-15T18:30:00.000-08:00

christmas prepping is in full force!

Fall two trip number two!

2010-11-07T09:21:00.001-08:00

Overnight
Day trip natural bridge,
Stonewall Jackson house
And grandma and my
Favorite artist, p Buckley moss!

Tonight mountain side hotel, light music sound show under the natural bridge.

Getting out , oh my love for you virginia grows.

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oh virginia

2010-10-28T18:42:00.000-07:00

venturing to williamsburg bright and early for _ time. (i can not count the times this year.)
hopefully we can see just a little bit of some fall foliage.

favorite place favorite place.

bringing along, ipod, emergency medicine, and of coarse a pillow. I will not over do this beauty.

Fall is one of the most beautiful times of year in Virginia, and traveling throughout the state during this season can reveal an abundance of color. As you enjoy the outdoors and Virginia's forests, remember to be careful with outdoor fire. A cigarette, campfire or cooking equipment can destroy the scenic wonders of Fall in Virginia.

Resting before winter

2010-10-27T18:09:00.001-07:00

Post appendix surgery , pumpkins & game 1 of world series! Lemon bubblegum, and about to get my color on!

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awake at the worst hours

2010-10-24T02:41:00.000-07:00

two more golf balls
and now about to enjoy some early morning netflex

i need some tv dinner trays

and a shower

in a bad way

Finally

2010-09-15T08:55:00.001-07:00

Super inspired by some embroidery work I did for a customer who lives in Belgium.
She sent me the pictures today of the leather pieces I created that are now set in to her set!

Now I shall finish unpacking my cat / craft room .

2010-09-14T17:06:00.001-07:00

so far being 30 has been pretty emotional,
but i am only feeling strong.er.

2010-08-27T19:46:00.000-07:00

i just painted my toe nails orange?!
is it fall yet.?

tonight has been circled by
home made warm potato salad.
a trip to trader Joe's, where i brought my first ever bag of
Brussels sprouts

and then a membership to
the hermitage museum!
i feel like i am really turning 30 next week
(scary)

((so scary))

new livings

2010-07-19T10:10:00.000-07:00

my new baby i can not wait to get off layway

currently
moving all of my personal belongs over to a shabby house/deplux/ sometimes apt comes out
with my lover means mega purge.

mostly my crafting bits over the last year or two went to a complete stop,
but now i have the mostly dreamy craft room ever.

ribbon paper fairytale

2010-06-29T19:59:00.000-07:00

looking into,
country barn renting, (?) we are currently so poor.
lining new cabinets with this martha stewart wrapping paper,

for real moving with ikea bags, and a party in my pants!

2010 you are shaping up. almost halfies.
can not wait till 3 days off next week.

recycle all this ribbon! finally
i am really so lucky my favorite flower happens to be one of he cheapest flowers, and i can not wait to mix some berry bulbs with it.

2010-06-26T06:20:00.000-07:00

my grandma just told me she paid $11.00
for her wedding dress, and also when she got married
she did not know where babies came from.

oh i love my grandma!

2010-06-21T14:03:00.000-07:00

at the moment i am reading, how to become a minimalist.
or wait im googling it.

moving is hard, in all ways. i really should have moved out of this apt years ago.

im leaning on just throwing things away.
right now there is three force flex bags sitting on my bedroom floor.

i need help.
more so i just need the keys to the new place so i can go
and breathe, that central air/dishwasher/washing machine
is to die for.

next month

2010-06-11T12:20:00.000-07:00

so exciting!

2010-06-09T18:22:00.001-07:00

"It is true, we don't know what is happening in the deepest sense. And if we can stay with the not knowing, and trust it, and enjoy it, we will be able to experience our life in some fundamentally different way. That's our miraculous power."

no more leaky cellings!

2010-05-19T06:40:00.000-07:00

I can not wait to get out of this dungeon!
Into the arms of my sweet living man,
In down right luxury!

2010-05-18T22:14:00.000-07:00

2010-05-18T07:59:00.001-07:00

and a rooster

2010-05-12T16:31:00.000-07:00

dreaming about

colonial house
big backyard
bordered by trees
koi pond,
and hanging lights from trees

lately,
too many deviled eggs,
shooting darts

i miss my bike, wish it wasnt raining tonight....

2010-04-20T19:17:00.000-07:00

If angry, beware of sinning. Let not your irritation last until the sun goes down;

2010-04-18T16:17:00.001-07:00

i totally get the whole;
Good morning beautiful!

2010-03-21T19:07:00.000-07:00

yummmm

2010-03-08T20:03:00.001-08:00

FUTURE IS LOOKING SO BRIGHT

2010-02-28T17:14:00.000-08:00

oh where life is headed.

i love you !!!!

2010-02-26T18:07:00.000-08:00

2010-02-16T16:12:00.001-08:00

best valentines ever!

2010-02-08T16:33:00.000-08:00

this weekend full of some love and plus 60s weather. can not wait to burn the fresh smelling ones soon. i need spring time, or more of this fresh bay air. seventh week of college life!

2010-02-04T06:47:00.000-08:00

thinking about trying some of that Fancy chocolate water

2010-02-01T06:53:00.000-08:00

LOVE ME SOME VALENTINES DAY

2010-01-17T19:55:00.001-08:00

The Art of Goal Setting continues to enable me to:

1. Decide what is important in my life.

2. Determine what I want to achieve.

3. Separate what is important from what is irrelevant.

4. Be motivated.

5. Facilitate my ability to benchmark progress.

6. Gain self-confidence as my goals become reality.

something ive never had

2010-01-16T18:14:00.000-08:00

hmm,
so amped on the non party lifestyle,
maybe this will change tommarrow but for now.
im giving it up, well at least till feb 01.

discipline is my Resolution.

ekk, next month...
packing lunches? and getting rid of my
hoard!

2010-01-12T19:29:00.000-08:00

never thought i would
want to play a card game so bad

2010-01-11T06:15:00.001-08:00

and here goes day 11.

2010-01-06T18:53:00.000-08:00

here is to 2010
and all the
F.A.N.B.O.Y.S.

2009-12-21T20:55:00.000-08:00

Last GGM for a while,
times are a changing.

times are a changing.

2009-12-18T06:58:00.000-08:00

2009-12-15T22:34:00.000-08:00

i am becoming a fan of distance learning,
what ever i dont get a can read again,
and i can even call up my boo for a
"how do you spell..."

2009-12-15T17:31:00.000-08:00

writing this from semi clean bed room on a night i wish could last a bit longer.

2009-12-06T21:05:00.000-08:00

Congratulations, you are registered for the workshop New Student Orientation - Online Students.

still kinda can't beileve i am doing this!

2009-11-29T20:24:00.000-08:00

best weekend evvver

2009-11-24T18:53:00.000-08:00

Love My grandparents so much.
Can not wait to spend thanksgiving with them.
I have so much to be thankful for this year. got a little bit teary thinking about it all.
Love my Man. and Love my ladies! Each day, a new growing point. new step on the laddddder.

2009-11-24T05:02:00.001-08:00

I still can not beileve im 29

2009-11-23T09:21:00.000-08:00

2009-11-16T20:32:00.000-08:00

not to many things in life, are better than a old fashioned love letter in the mail.

2009-10-24T04:55:00.000-07:00

'Cause when we kiss, Fire"

have had this song in my head for weeks

just a lil bit, over and out

2009-10-23T19:47:00.001-07:00

pos+ changes in my life,
best feeeeelings ever.

get on more on get on movie is playing,
writing time is now in the book of life.

GULP,
and then i stood up and saw that this was a whole new world.
whats with the sun lately. messing with my eyes, clouds getting me good
pretty much daily.

got some black trash bags today. looking forward to filling them up on my days off next week

photo from vacation last week, best art museum i've ever been to.
also saw a baby racoon.

so excited!

2009-10-13T06:39:00.001-07:00

can not even call you a handsome devil,
cuz
baby

you ain't no devil.

2009-09-30T22:24:00.001-07:00

love you life!!!

2009-09-25T11:57:00.000-07:00

pretty sure this blue bird on my shoulder isn't going away, and the feeling is beyond great!

OH HELLO beauty, to you too.

fall is so for me.

2009-09-11T09:59:00.000-07:00

walking waking up weeeeak never has it felt this good.

in the call of a new world
as I climb to the next floor
haven't we
met before
under brighter skies above

2009-09-08T15:53:00.000-07:00

being 29

a real eye opener.

loving life!

2009-08-23T16:03:00.000-07:00

just remembered it is actually august 23 2009
where did the summer months go? July and August.
i will be happy to have a good healthy back again.

rode bikes to Nautius today and feed the koi fish.

i love Sundays

2009-08-23T15:16:00.000-07:00

starting to get excited about turning 29, i've so over everything lately.

2009-08-20T22:12:00.000-07:00

it would be really nice if, my right toes started moving again.

wigglewigglewiggle

2009-08-14T15:05:00.000-07:00

i fell down doing the electric slide

yyyyeaaaaahhh

2009-08-11T15:40:00.000-07:00

truly is back

and came fully armed with

even got some magical kinders.

times have been nice. reeeeeeeeally nice.

getting ready to enter the last year of my twentyhood.
we should be saving for a limo.
but really the thought of being hungover doesn't sound appppealing....

how many times do i have to wash my hands

2009-08-06T08:42:00.000-07:00

needed you in another lifetime.

and in that lifetime, i really do own that four/three wheeler.

2009-08-02T19:57:00.000-07:00

ready to go byebye, now just trying to figure out how.

tonight's fortune

2009-07-30T19:01:00.000-07:00

"only by acceptance of the past, can you alter it."

this is my daily struggle.

2009-07-27T17:16:00.000-07:00

hey,
foots sleeping.
sometimes you have the love of your life...

you want the sunrise, go back to bed.

my hands through my head i know i was wrong

2009-07-26T16:09:00.000-07:00

'Some people have to be
Permanently together
Lovers devoted to
Each other forever
Now Ive got things to do
And Ive said before that I know you have too
When Im not there
In spirit Ill be there'

when your taking it easy, you have bonjovi after noons, hip hop early eveing, then a few classics to look forward live this coming week........

2009-07-26T13:54:00.000-07:00

this is not spike but it sure does look like him.
oh lordy it has felt lovely not to have been in a bar this week.

2009-07-25T20:58:00.001-07:00

curly hair curly hair curly hair

a bit of a blur but isn't it always

2009-07-21T19:26:00.000-07:00

would really like to whine about now,
but
am going to aim for

a photo of the hamburger walk. hope to see you soon sweet mystery night. your apart of my dreams.

day dreaming

2009-07-16T14:33:00.000-07:00

I always say how life is great and over the top.
lately
i had a major put out , crappy back.
wobbling around like one leg is longer than the other
and losing balance all of the time.
im still having and issuse moving my toes and the top of
my right foot.Back to the doctor next week.
i blame it on the night my crocs broke.

then dancing way to hard. more like jumping
swimming in the ocean,
jumping off the diving board
bringing my bike up and down the steps way too many
times.

its been real lonely, having two kitties for roomates this month.

tonight i am getting my hair cut and then hopefully a lemon will
bring me energy to post more money makers to ebay.

got to get out of here.

i have brought four pairs of shoes this month
and am going to see depeche mode in 12 days

but i really just need a water slide.

2009-07-08T22:06:00.000-07:00

please unpitch me

2009-07-07T22:12:00.000-07:00

loving life lead to too many cannon balls

and i mean toooooo many

2009-07-04T00:06:00.001-07:00

love you life!

its never been right.

2009-06-28T19:01:00.000-07:00

a sweet surrender is all i have to give, and one day...
one day i will get there, and i am okay with that, for
now .

might change next week or next year.

and then we have the speed of sound,
and thats a totally different story

i love july.

2009-06-28T06:51:00.000-07:00

can not wait for the mini vacay i am about to have.
but still have 4 more days of work.

i may or maynot get out town. but if i do,
there may be a jetski in the mix, and it is anything like a
3 wheeler, im beyond excited.

2009-06-25T20:38:00.000-07:00

always taken so much to heart when it comes to you.

this week has been over the top. and today, i want to go out
and drink all the beers. but really. i am being good.(ive been
being good.)

michael remember for the true gift he was.

bad, was my first mini record for my fisher price
record player.

miss,and thanks,and

theres some blood on the dance floor.

finally improvement.

2009-06-18T16:08:00.000-07:00

I think I have been managing well with others and mentally been putting too many socks in some mouths,
as well as my own.

weeding out again, the negative.
cutting back on my downfalls.
and getting caught up in myself.

it is the second half of the year. got no time for mistakes

2009-06-02T17:14:00.000-07:00

i am just so excited to think about

not

sitting in a bar, drinking my life away.

HELLO second half of 2009

2009-06-01T19:48:00.001-07:00

my clock has really been ticking lately.

good things to come.
but still focusing back around on myself.

i really miss my little t.

2009-05-24T14:16:00.000-07:00

ready for dinner date.

all i've ate today was stone ground crackers with homemade strawberry jelly.

the best jelly i've ever had.
and my favorite crackers.

cold play was pretty good.pretty really good. looking forward to
all these new birds.the best music to my ears.
band of horses
depeche mode/Peter Bjorn&john (what a combo)